Marriage Survives New Baby! 3 Quick Tips Wives Can Use Today!
Posted: Saturday, January 31, 2009
by Nina Roesner
Greater Impact Ministries, Inc.
Brian longed for the companionship he and his wife, Terry, had enjoyed when she was working full time. Now the entire universe revolved around their new baby, as Terry tried to make the adjustment. Feeling like he'd lost his wife to someone else, like a good man, he squared his shoulders and just did the next thing. Unbeknownst to his wife, Brian was also tired and just needed a friend. He loved five-month-old Jackie, and wouldn't trade her for anything, but really wished he hadn't become invisible as a result of her arrival. He had friends who had three and four kids how did their wives do it? Yet day after day passed with him feeling like he was needed for nothing but the paycheck. One of the most common mistakes new moms make is forgetting about the love that created the new baby in the first place. This article provides three suggestions for making dramatic but simple improvements in your marriage relationship today!
Sandra noticed a significant improvement in everyone's stress level when she started making dinner at 3:00pm. She set the table while the baby was taking her afternoon nap, prepped as much of the food as she could, and then when her husband, Bill, arrived at 6:00pm, she simply greeted him at the door and asked him how his day was. She sat down with him for ten minutes, then got up and put dinner together in about fifteen minutes. Bill felt like a priority again, and everyone ate dinner without as much stress.
Tip #2: Ask Him Questions About His Day
Jack noticed an increase in the connection he felt with his wife, Sally, when she stopped greeting him with a litany of issues when he arrived, and instead, acted interested in his day by asking a few questions. He was able to unload some of his day to her, and she seemed to have more confidence. What he didn't know, was that Sally called her mom and a girlfriend in the afternoon to "vent" about the day's difficulties with their new baby while trying to balance her part-time job. She was able to meet both of their needs by taking action herself.
Tip #3: Do One Little Act of Service A Day
Jim noticed that his cupboards were slowing becoming more organized. The cabinet under his sink suddenly had a sense of order to it, and the towels in the linen closet were once again aligned after being in disarray for months. Wondering what was going on, he asked his wife, Carol. "I am spending just ten minutes a day on improvement activities. Over the course of a week, I've done an hour's worth of work, and it's amazing what I can get done in just a little chunk of time!" his wife replied.
Bottom Line: Find little ways each day to make your husband feel important when the new baby arrives, and your marriage will reap the benefits!
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